Parents are the most important people in a child’s life. There’s just no way around that. Kids develop their security and confidence from the relationships they have with their parents, and the parent of the opposite gender is even more important in so many ways. Irv and I have talked about this many times and how his relationship with Payton will shape how she views her relationships in the future. No pressure, right?! He has made an effort to be present in her life in a way that is nothing short of beautiful. Elijah has always needed us to be with him until he falls asleep, which has been my role, and Irv has wanted to be the one to tuck Payton in at night. He has made it a perfect time for them to bond and have quality time together.
Because we are the most routine people around, we follow the same bedtime routine every night. Elijah and I read a book and sing songs, which is one of my favorite times of the day, and Irv and Payton read a book and then just talk. Keeping in mind she’s 2 ½…he asks her what part of her day made her happy, what part made her sad (sometimes she makes things up and tries to trick him), but they go wherever the conversation takes them. He wants her KNOW that he loves her with all his heart and and he will always listen to her. My favorite part of their routine is when he goes to give her a kiss before turning out the light and she says, “Thanks for talking!” That makes me choke up every time I think of it. As such a little girl she knows Dad wants to talk and she can depend on him being there for her in that moment and for the rest of her life. This is the most beautiful gift a dad can give.